Make it Last

What does it take to make a relation work?

Whether you believe this or not it is true! Marriage is like having and trying to keep a really good job. When it comes to a relationship communication to key, not just being able to talk to each other but just as important to being able to really hear what the other person is saying and acknowledging their feelings. This sounds easy but you would be surprised at how many couples have issues with this. As with a job and training for a position, you sometimes have to get help and training as a couple with listening and communication from a professional especially if this is a trouble area in your marriage.

Alone time is very important away from the kids, family and friends. You must have time together that allows you both to bond on a deeper level. This is your time to have a romantic date, take a trip, splurge on yourselves, have meaningful conversations, have fun together, reflect with one another and so much more. Alone time is essential to any relationship or marriage. Byway of intimacy, touch and conversing on a consistent basis. Alone time hold so much meaning and value in marriages and relationships it is a way to attractions and connection strong and reinforced.

Compromising is mandatory within a healthy marriage or relationship. You both have your own individual thoughts, ideas and opinions about things and there will be times when you disagree about small or big decisions and the healthy way to move forward is by both parties willingness to meet the other half way. So many people are selfish and find it difficult to let go of their pride for someone or anyone else but that what you do in a marriage. You make the most selfless and compromising choices with the person you exchanged vows with under God. It takes practice for some and a a lot of practice for others.

Patience and loyalty are sometimes forgotten when it comes to married couples but this usually is when trouble arises and problems begin. Loyalty does not mean I will not cheat, but it means that no matter what we come against as a couple or as individuals I will have your back no matter what. Sometimes a woman will find it easier to stay with a cheating man that always defends her, always protects her from people talking about her, using her or treating her poorly because she feels like he will go to war for her to protect her and that quality of loyalty will keep her with there even when he has been unfaithful(some women). Patience with our spouses when they are upset, emotional, late, flamboyant or irrational allowing them time to calm down can give you both good perspective but comes with time and age.

Reliability and trustworthiness are the backbone to marriages and relationships because everyone wants to spend the rest of their life with someone they can depend on and trust with our hearts, minds and souls. Marriage is hard work and it requires commitment and diligence from both spouses. It requires you both to be there on the same page. It requires vulnerabilities and sensitivity. A support system is a great way to help encourage a healthy marriage with others that have gone through and endured and triumphed in the ups and downs of a relationship. It takes love to go against the odds and return victoriously i n your union.