Find It!

You can not depend on someone else to make you happy. Women and guys frequently get this so wrong. By thinking that by some cosmic alignment designed by the Gods that some other individual out there will ultimately fill this void that is within them. Oh baby, you have no idea how off track you truly are.

These type of people will seek anyone whom they feel is weak or a victim to want to fix. By allowing the other person to rely and depend on them it gives them a false sense of love (they love me because they need me) mentality. Be it all the same, they truly make themselves feel as if this is truly love. And to everyone around them it may be obvious that they are allowing themselves to be used. I teach and drill this into my daughters because not for nothing women are often the ones that want to help fix someone else.  When they are the ones that should be fixed first because this is a sign of dysfunction and it will allow you to feel a short term of false love because 9 times out of 10 a man shouldn't need you. A man should simply want you..... they want to protect you, men want to defend your honor, men want to provide for you, they want to make you smile when you're sad, they want to build a life with and around you, they want to take and post pictures with you, men want to hold your hand and kiss you in public, they want to prove themselves to you, when they mess up they want to win you back. 

Your happiness will never be fulfilled if you need to fix someone else or have them dependant on you because you are honestly just manipulating someone to have some type of feelings for you and this always ends bad. People always feel like "Oh not me" haha, "I will get this guy because he needs me, I can be exactly what he needs". Sadly enough you should not be what someone needs, you should be who they wholeheartedly want.

Find your happiness in finding that person that goes broke trying to please you, in someone that goes the extra mile for you on a consistent basis not just when its convenient. Find out the reason why you must feel needed and deal with that in a self love intervention way. Learn to be loved for who you are and not by what you can do for someone. This is true for men as well as women. Give yourself permission to just be loved for breathing.