Take and Keep Your Man!

Let's start off by saying that You Can't Lose Someone that was NEVER yours. We all should agree on this.

Let's jump right into it. First, in the beginning tell him a bunch of lies (I won't go through your phone, I can keep a secret, you can trust me) pretty much tell him everything that all men want to hear.

You want him to feel like he can confide and put trust in you. 

When he begins to ask for advice on his current relationship... Sabotage sabotage sabotage! Give him some lame ass advice that sounds good but it's really bull crap. Slowly down talk the person that he is with by saying things like....'Does she understand you, I don't think she respects you, You deserve better, I wouldn't do that to you, I will treat you like you need to be treated' you guys get the point.

On the flip side...while you are slowly getting in his cranium.... Baby girl work your magic on his family. Find a sucker or two that will gossip and entertain the sabotage and reel their dumb asses into your scheme.  They will think nothing of it. Take them out, have fun with them and be super down to earth where they will feel as if they would rather that he be with you than the person he is currently with. Oh yeah, the family and friend part is easy once you hook the sucker that will be naive enough to fall for it.

Now, back to this guy....girl, take him out, always be attentive and show him that he does not have to pull out his wallet when he is with you. This takes pressure off men, they feel like they don't have to be as responsible and they can relax and you will handle it. More and more show how he can depend on you for materialistic things. This will be so exciting to some guys.

Now that you have suckered in the family member or friend it is time to fine tune things and work your magic.  At this point he wants little or nothing to do with his current relationship, so began talking negatively about his current boo to your new found friend (they probably are happy you said something because messy people loves some juicy gossip).  Once you guys have agreed that she is the devil and totally not right for him your job is officially done baby girl. That family member will tie all the loose ends for you while being totally oblivious to the fact that they were your pawn. So good right!!

Most guys listen to their family and friends because they feel as though they have his best interest at heart. So when he decides to be with you it will feel right to him, it will feel easy and he has a freedom with you that he didn't have with the other woman. And the icing on the cake will be those moments when he begins to feel bad about leaving the other chic, you won't have to diss her anymore because your pawns will do this for you. Girl they will tell him a million reasons why he should stay with you. You have him! Keep him because the ball is in your court and if you lose him, clearly you did not read this blog first. And if by chance you read this and still loss him. Baby girl he might have been playing you just as hard as you were playing him. Men are dogs you know. But keep him if you can....if not, show him that you have options and that you can upgrade and get better.  I mean he cant be the only guy that finds you attractive. So make him aware of that. Trust me! 

Lol....I am a Christian and I humbly and faithfully believe in God. But, I am almost certain that most men will cheat. So, us as women have to do what we must in the event that it happens. I have been with my husband since we were teenagers, but baby, make no mistake I always kept a friend that I could talk and vent to (and child when he found out which was in divorce court by going through my phone....he could not handle it...he was shocked and felt like I would never do that to him) I mean at this point in our relationship he was completely moved in with another woman so I had no reason to place apps on my phone to cover up messages and phone calls. So when he snatched my phone from my hands he got more than he bargained for. But that is a man for you, they feel like it is OK for them to have a side piece but the minute they find out that you have been doing them same way but better they can't deal. I mean it didn't mean I did not love my husband it meant that, I am the one that's in a relationship with him and I know first hand the sneaky things that he does and the lies that he tells, but neither one of us are going anywhere. However, it doesn't make either party a saint or what either one of us had done right. Cause at the end of the day that dude made it easy for me and that woman made it easy for him.(like by me telling him that I was sick of drama from my sister in law and how she has people on my websites and gossiping or disliking me for no reason, he made it a point for me to know and see that his family adored me) he had information to manipulate the situation and it did make it easier because everyone was always so loving and nice and accepting when I came around. Maybe that is an excuse but child please, it is always better to be with someone and there is no outside drama a breath of fresh air. And funny enough sometimes that negativity can also draw you closer together because my husband saw some things that bothered him when we going through our divorce like how totally involved certain people were and he couldn't understand how they could not see that the divorce was tearing him apart.   But we both are responsible for our own actions  of course and no one else. My hubby and I will do a video blog post about our situation so come and check for that post in a few days. Now, back to the topic at hand.

Get a man the right way. Don't be corrupt and manipulative. Be yourself, be authentic and genuine. Be who you are designed to be and the right man will find you. Never seek to destroy someone else's relationship.... Nothing good comes out of that. I'm just speaking for us women out there that don't play when it comes to our relationships, we are the women that stand our ground and won't back down to a man when he is doing wrong. We are the women that will not be a mother to a man but his mate. (meaning listening to complaining and whining and coddling him) no we are the ones that will say "Stop bitching, pick yourself up and, dust yourself off. You are a man not a baby and you can do or accomplish whatever the fuck you set your mind to cause the world does not owe us anything so hold your head up and let's go get it". I speak for the women that won't make things easy for a man just to say they have one. I speak for the women that have daughters which hope and pray that our daughters don't have to experience situations such as the one described above. But knowing for a fact that if it does happen, that they will walk away with their head held high and preserved self assurance. Knowing that she can't keep something that was never hers! The heart loves what kills it to go without. And the devil seeks to destroy and makes things shiny and easy. God makes you sacrifice and earn what is worth having in your life.

Remember, cheating should NEVER be a Deal Breaker. Relationships are way more complex than a few randoms!